I havent listened yet but sometimes the most heartbreaking goodbyes are the ones that aren't said out loud. They're the ones that leave you with just the memory of what used to be
I feel like in the past, I never cared about double or triple or quadruple texting because if there was a friend that I liked and that I wanted to see, I would reach out. But now, I do view friendships and relationships a lot differently. I’m not perfect, and I acknowledge that I have PLENTY of faults. But at the same time, I also know there’s a lot that I bring to the table as well in terms of being a friend. The point is, if I don’t sense a similar degree of excitement or desire from someone else to continue their friendship with me, I’m ok with that because I can be that friend for someone else. Of course, there are exceptions and people out there that I am willing to go the extra mile for. But yeah.. honestly there really is only one friend that I truly cared about and wished were still in my life that isn’t now. And I should feel lucky about that I guess because so many of the friends that I really love, are still with me.
Agree with this. I sincerely believe that learning to draw boundaries for how far you'll go for someone is a major part of developing self-love for yourself. Being able to move on gracefully from relationships is, imo, a huge show of maturity. The differentiator of it being easy or difficult is often the value they bring to your life. If someone is an avg. level of compatible, it's easy to let go and place your time elsewhere; it's especially tough if you believe you have something special. Thanks for reading/commenting
I love reading these and look forward to them every week/every other week! A lot of my relationships with my middle school - college era friends I feel very secure in. I know that I don't necessarily have to reach out every day or even every week/month, and I will still have them as cornerstones in my life.
I've had a lot of angst with some classmates recently. At some point earlier this year, I realized that me reaching out constantly was just not worth my time anymore. And I just went cold turkey for quite a while, waiting to see if effort were to be reciprocated from them. Like, I did as much as I could on my end. If you guys are going to be mainstays in my life moving forward, then prove it because I'm not going to be a dog that keeps coming back to you.
Though, at one point in time, I did have this friend that I reached out to constantly, despite never hearing back from said person. It was a period of 3-4 months maybe where I had reached out several times without a response. And like I was saying earlier, eventually, I just got fed up with trying and wanted to see if they had the desire to continue our friendship. Luckily, in this case, it did actually work. If someone is that important to you, I think it's ok to swallow your ego a little bit and go the extra mile, but at the end of the day, there's only so much you can do as well.
I havent listened yet but sometimes the most heartbreaking goodbyes are the ones that aren't said out loud. They're the ones that leave you with just the memory of what used to be
Tripwires? Cypher mentioned?
Spycam stalk ex-friends online? Neural Theft the disappointment in my brain? Thanks for reading/commenting :)
I feel like in the past, I never cared about double or triple or quadruple texting because if there was a friend that I liked and that I wanted to see, I would reach out. But now, I do view friendships and relationships a lot differently. I’m not perfect, and I acknowledge that I have PLENTY of faults. But at the same time, I also know there’s a lot that I bring to the table as well in terms of being a friend. The point is, if I don’t sense a similar degree of excitement or desire from someone else to continue their friendship with me, I’m ok with that because I can be that friend for someone else. Of course, there are exceptions and people out there that I am willing to go the extra mile for. But yeah.. honestly there really is only one friend that I truly cared about and wished were still in my life that isn’t now. And I should feel lucky about that I guess because so many of the friends that I really love, are still with me.
Agree with this. I sincerely believe that learning to draw boundaries for how far you'll go for someone is a major part of developing self-love for yourself. Being able to move on gracefully from relationships is, imo, a huge show of maturity. The differentiator of it being easy or difficult is often the value they bring to your life. If someone is an avg. level of compatible, it's easy to let go and place your time elsewhere; it's especially tough if you believe you have something special. Thanks for reading/commenting
I love reading these and look forward to them every week/every other week! A lot of my relationships with my middle school - college era friends I feel very secure in. I know that I don't necessarily have to reach out every day or even every week/month, and I will still have them as cornerstones in my life.
I've had a lot of angst with some classmates recently. At some point earlier this year, I realized that me reaching out constantly was just not worth my time anymore. And I just went cold turkey for quite a while, waiting to see if effort were to be reciprocated from them. Like, I did as much as I could on my end. If you guys are going to be mainstays in my life moving forward, then prove it because I'm not going to be a dog that keeps coming back to you.
Though, at one point in time, I did have this friend that I reached out to constantly, despite never hearing back from said person. It was a period of 3-4 months maybe where I had reached out several times without a response. And like I was saying earlier, eventually, I just got fed up with trying and wanted to see if they had the desire to continue our friendship. Luckily, in this case, it did actually work. If someone is that important to you, I think it's ok to swallow your ego a little bit and go the extra mile, but at the end of the day, there's only so much you can do as well.